Life story in under 1,000 words: Get to know me (Becky), The Loud Quiet founder

Hello, I’m Becky. Settle in and grab a cuppa while I tell you a little bit more about me, what led me to become a somatic practitioner and explore conscious living, and what I love most about my work since founding The Loud Quiet in 2023.

Via life abroad, a classic early-thirties life reassessment, ADHD diagnosis, leaving a corporate career, some very difficult life experiences, an often unkind internal monologue, a need for human connection and finally following my heart before it imploded from being ignored any longer.

I’d love to know if any of this resonates with you…

And hey, I don’t expect everyone in my world to have the same lived experiences as me either x

I started The Loud Quiet in 2023 after training in breathwork and somatics, following an overhaul of how I lived my life and treated myself which had started a few years earlier, in my early thirties. I struggled too much with self-doubt, not that you’d know it from the outside. I had a successful corporate career for a decade, climbed the ladder, followed my creative passions in my own time and kept my overthinking, anxious, self-critical brain, and very human emotions, well under wraps.

In my twenties I’d lived FAST. I was in Spain for a few years, had so much fun and I’m so glad I did that so impulsively, barely overthinking it at all, and moving my whole life over within three weeks of a random call from a recruiter. The other best impulsive decision I made there, rescuing a little eight-week-old pup, Cash - now 15.

I knew I had good intuition I didn’t listen to enough (which often resulted in bad choices), I knew I had things to share and I knew I wanted to connect more as humans. I always loved people, finding out what moved them and made them tick. My heart wanted more than delivering work from a laptop for most of my days without speaking to anyone, a feeling which had worsened when I became a successful freelance writer and no longer went to an office. I really missed people.

I was working as a mental health writer for a world-leading mental health and addiction services provider, and becoming more aware of different aspects of the human experience. I’d always been fascinated by psychology; I’d started a mental health podcast during COVID and followed a long-held dream of training as a therapist at Manchester College a couple of years later.

I’d started to realise it really wasn’t just ‘low confidence’ or ‘overthinking’ or ‘excess energy’ that made me struggle to focus, doubt everything I did and feel so uncomfortable in my own skin (oh and seek dopamine in unhealthy ways, and have a brain that got so loud and hateful after drinking I couldn’t stand it). Yep you guessed it, I got an ADHD diagnosis. It was part relief to have some sort of explanation, part total shock, part existential crisis.

I had to change the way I was living. I started learning how to get quiet with myself without fearing being alone with my own thoughts, or dreading the emotions that came up when I slowed down and did not know how to deal with beyond panic and suppression.

As a very sensitive person, I felt things so deeply, and it makes me sad now to think of how much I was pushing down as my vulnerability felt too much to show to the world (or even myself). I’m so glad I became aware enough to lovingly change that. Most of all, I’m glad I stopped feeling this inexplicable shame that there was something wrong with me.

Very soon after I qualified in breathwork and somatic release, I experienced a complicated late pregnancy loss and it both set me back and gave me new opportunities to love and trust my body, instead of feeling disconnected from it. That was not easy, and for a while I experienced a complete loss of self just as I thought I was finally figuring out who I really was.

I also chose to speak on stage and write publicly about it in time. I hated the thought that so many women had experienced this, many of whom were alone without any support network, or nobody to talk to. I hated that this very common health experience was still so taboo and implicitly shamed.

As I moved on, put my heart into my work and started to grow my own community, I absolutely loved the feeling of being in rooms with people dropping the mask, allowing themselves to be tender, messy and listen to themselves, prioritise their own needs and trust their own inner voice. To trust someone else to support them instead of trying to do it alone. I knew the pain of that and had long grown tired of it, but I’d also fallen back into that pattern with what I’d been through; I was determined not to go back to that way of living.

The feeling of being able to stop performing and just show up as ourselves is still as powerful to me as it was on day one. That permission to be human and genuine, which sounds trite, but it’s absolutely exhausting for a neurodivergent person to continue trying to function according to the unspoken, confusing expectations of societal norms.

I now love collaborating with good people doing work they love, just trying to pass on a little of what they’ve learned about being human, and trying to embody that fully with more self-acceptance, meeting resistance with a curious, open heart.

Supporting on retreats around the world, meeting new people and seeing new places, is something I dreamed of for years, and feel so fortunate and privileged to enjoy (and most of all, to be running my own in 2027). However, what I love just as much is being embedded in my local community and feeling I’ve finally put down roots.

I love seeing people make these little connections with people in their area, being present with and kind to each other. It’s something that’s increasingly special in this age of social disconnection and supposedly declining attention spans, dwindling headspace and care for our fellow citizens. I have hope that none of that is actually so true and we are not so divided; kindness is resistance, IMO.

I love that I finally love what I do. I love that I’m lucky enough to attract good, kind people to my spaces. I’m looking forward to continuing being inspired by you, my lovely community and more of you I haven’t yet met. We’re all just walking each other home.

Hope to connect with you soon and my email is always open. I’m also available for a free 30-min discovery call, if you’d like a no-obligation chat about what you’re looking for.

See my next events, breathwork classes and retreats, and how to work with me 1:1.

Becky x