Your pain doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you

How many of us can relate to having the thought that our suffering must mean there’s something wrong with us? Yet there are so many common experiences we all have, that we feel alone in. Because we give our pain the meaning that something in us must be broken.

So if it takes all your energy just to hold it together all day…

If you feel like your deepest emotions are too much to process…

If the pressure to be happy and joyful over the festive season feels too overwhelming…

There’s nothing wrong with you.

Supporting another of my lovely regular breathwork class attendees (taken and shared with permission).

If you know you have to end something and you’ve no idea how you’d start again…

If you feel like the version you’re presenting to the world isn’t the real you…

If you feel like you’re too broken to ever be ‘fixed’…

There’s nothing wrong with you.

If you feel like you’ve made too many mistakes to ever feel good about yourself…

If you’ve no idea what self-love means or what it’s supposed to feel like…

If you’ve no idea how to reconnect with your body and it feels too scary to try…

If you feel like everyone has things all figured out and you’ve no idea what you’re doing…

There’s nothing wrong with you.

There was never anything wrong with you. Somatic healing work helps you remember who you are.

At the start of 1:1 somatic therapy, we discuss what brought the person here. As I open it up to share what they’d like to work on, I’m often asked, “What do other people say?” I get the sense (and this is something many of us feel) that people wonder whether their experience might be too much to hear.

It’s not that they want to know the private details of others’ lives. They just wonder how soon is too soon, to bring the depths of their pain out into the open. It’s understandable, because it’s terrifying to put ourselves out there in our deepest vulnerability, fearing how others will react. Wondering what they’ll think of us.

Yet our suffering doesn’t define us. It *does* deserve attention to help us move through it and free ourselves, rather than letting the past control us. Let me tell you, whatever you’re struggling with, there’s nothing wrong with you. And nothing you could ever tell me would be too much for me to hear.

I’ve worked with people who’ve experienced all kinds of stress, trauma and emotional pain. There’s nothing that can’t be overcome when we meet emotions and sensations stored in the body, with conscious support.

Allow me to help share the load of what you’ve been carrying, and guide you back to yourself. You deserve to experience the life awaiting you on the other side of pain ♥️

Becky x

Read more about my 1:1 somatic therapy services (online and in-person, South Manchester). Or email: hello@theloudquiet.co.uk.

For those unfamiliar, I am a trained somatic practitioner, with a level 3 qualification in person-centred counselling.